Thursday; March 31

I like to be liked. It makes me feel good when people agree with what I say or write. It’s not that I think I know everything (which is painfully obvious), but it gives me a warm feeling to know that people think I am on the right track. While the previous statements are accurate, the converse is true as well. I don’t particularly appreciate it when people disagree with me or challenge me. When they take issue with one of my ideas, it’s almost like they are attacking one of my children – and I don’t take to kindly to that. Even though this is natural, it may be a bit over the top. While there is value in standing up for what we think or believe, there is also something good about not taking disagreement too personally. Our thoughts are just that – thoughts. They don’t have life in and of themselves, so it shouldn’t be a big deal when people challenge them. In fact, good ideas are the ones that are seasoned by reason. They have been explored by others and found to be valid. They may have been adjusted and improved throughout time and still may not be in their final stages. I need to do a better job understanding that conflict and disagreement don’t necessarily mean that people don’t like or respect me, it’s just that they haven’t completely accepted my premise.
Years ago, Solomon encouraged discussion and disagreement in the interest of maturity when he observed, “Iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” (Proverbs 27:17). Let’s be big enough to take criticism and wise enough to know how to give it. When we work together – even through differences – everyone will benefit from the process.

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