Wednesday; December 27
Have you ever been in a conversation with someone who made an
outlandish comment? Maybe you were
discussing their relationship with their parents and they said, “I hope I never
have to see them again!” or the conversation was about their depressed state and
they blurted out, “Maybe it would be best if I were just dead.”. When this happens our first reaction is a
strong desire to be somewhere else at that moment, but our most probable
response is to say something like, “How can you say that? That is dumb!
You don’t really mean it!” While
our comments are meant to logically assess the statements that were made, that
may not be what that person needs to hear at that moment. When this happens there are a few things in
play – first, the person is most likely not operating from a logical
perspective and secondly, they feel safe enough with us to make these
statements. They are reacting to their
intense emotional state and ignoring rational thought and, interestingly, for
wh…