Think About It

Have you ever had someone come up to you and complain about something one of your friends said or did to them? It could be another friend or a complete stranger, but it is pretty common for people of integrity to be told about something that one of their friends did that was offensive. When I find myself in this situation, my first inclination is to defend my friend – either to agree with what they said or affirm the action they took. Yet, there are times when, like me, my friends don’t do or say the right things, then what? We’ll the first thing we must understand is that we cannot defend inappropriate speech or bad actions. While friendship should transcend good and bad times, blindly defending something that is wrong perpetuates the wrong and can foster an environment that regularly blurs the line between good and evil. On the other hand, it would not in the best interest of our friendship to belittle our friend to the accuser. It isn’t out of the realm of possibility that t