Tuesday; July 24
Have you ever heard yourself say, “Here’s what I’d do if I were you?” ... now think back to the conversation immediately preceding our statement ... was there a request for our advice or were we just being “proactive”? Do we wait for people to solicit our advice or are we willing to provide it without being asked? The problem with offering up what we would do if we were them is really two-fold: 1). Most people don’t care what we’d do if we were them . More often than not, when people are complaining about what is going on in their lives, they are looking for someone to listen to them rather than someone to guide them. Sure, if they ask our opinion we should be willing to offer advice, but until then, we might as well save our breath – and our opinions. 2). We don’t always know what is going on in their lives . Often, when we offer advice we do so from our own perspective – here is what I would do if this happened to ME. The problem is they aren’t US! Their cir