Tuesday; June 24
“Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary.” (Galatians 6:9). Sounds good and noble, doesn’t it? However, how many of us struggle with this? Typically, when we are out in the community doing good work, we feel the energy of doing good; however, when we are called on to help people work through their own personal challenges, things are not as fun or exciting. Caring people are often sought out for their empathy and compassion and, before too long, they have a lot on their hearts and minds. Fixing things can produce a sense of accomplishment, but walking beside people can be exhausting! Whether it is the constant internalization of other people’s problems or compassion fatigue, dealing with struggles can be draining. So, what can we do for people who need our help – and still have the energy for the next one … and the next one and the one after that? Here are a few observations:
1. First,
give good advice, but don’t take their problems on yourself. When someone asks for our opinion, let’s be
wise – not only in what we tell them, but also in realizing that we can’t fix
them or their problems for them.
2. Know
and accept our limitations. There
are some things we can’t do and other things we don’t know about. Let’s be cautious of always being the one out
there researching what everyone else needs.
If we can help, let’s help; but let’s not overextend ourselves to the
point of futility.
3. Realize that we can’t change people. When people come to us, our job is to help them not heal them. The most obvious reason for this is because most of the time, they won’t allow us to take their reins. We can offer guidance and support, but let’s realize that they are still accountable to live their own lives.
Thanks to all of you who are there for others. We appreciate what you do for them but remember to take care of yourselves.
Think About It!