Monday; March 10

Have you ever lashed out at someone and then realized you weren’t as much angry at them as you were at the situation you were in?  The  individual hadn't done anything deserving of your fury, it is just that you were so emotional about what was going on that they just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time.  We may have been upset, embarrassed or frustrated about what was happening and they caught the brunt of our emotional reaction.

While this is understandable – and quite natural – it is also unfair.  When we react personally to someone, they can’t help but take it personal even if it wasn’t their fault.  Now, they walk away wondering what they did to deserve our wrath, trying to decide whether they should feel embarrassed, angry or hurt.  All because we responded in the wrong way to the wrong people.  

Let’s make sure we respond to the issue rather  than reacting to the situation.  When this happens, there is less collateral damage – especially those who are closest to us.  Remember the wisdom of the New Testament writer, “This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.” (James 1:19-20).  By being focused and aware, we can avoid a lot of issues – especially by those with whom we share a close relationship.

Think About It!  


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