Monday; November 13

Forgiveness vs. Accountability. Tolerance vs. Consequences.

I have been struggling recently with a bit of dilemma. When people make statements that inflame emotional reactions, do we challenge them or just work through it and forget about it? When people display inappropriate behavior, do we chalk it up to personalities or do we try to correct what is wrong while still trying to maintain a good relationship? Now, maybe I should go back and set the parameters – I am not talking about trying to raise children, I am talking about dealing with adults. With children, we need to help them learn how to behave, but how do we deal with full grown adults? I am quite familiar with Paul’s admonition, “Be kind to one another, compassionate, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” (Ephesians 4:32), but I also understand, James’ thought-process, “… if anyone among you strays from the truth and someone turns him back, let him know that the one who has turned a sinner from the error of his way will save his soul from death and cover a multitude of sins.” (James 5:19-20). Do we confront people who are alienating others with their behaviors or do we just let them be themselves and accept them for who they are? I can see the value in approaching the situation from either side – and could probably make a case for both. While this might help me justify my choice, it doesn’t help ease my dilemma – is one approach generally better than the other?

As I thought about this, another passage came to mind, “But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him.” (James 1:5). Maybe the answer is found in being open to God’s direction for each particular situation. Let’s all work together for what is best for the moment – and allow God to lead us to decide what that is with each individual.

Think About It!

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