Thursday; January 24
Have you ever asked your spouse to do
you a favor – then got upset with them when they didn’t do it the way that you
thought it should be done? Have you ever
asked for volunteers to accomplish a project, then complained because they
didn’t do it the way that you would have done it? While I can’t speak for everyone, on more
than one occasion I have relied on the kindness of others only to become
irritated when it wasn’t done the way I expected it to be done. While it is okay to have preferences, we must
be cautious that our preferences don’t get in the way of our graciousness. Also, if we have a particular way we want
something done, that’s fine and that’s our prerogative, but we should explain
those parameters in the beginning.
Again,
you may be so elated to have someone help you that this doesn’t apply to you,
but for those of us who tend to be “picky” here are a couple of suggestions to
appreciating the gifts of others:
1)
If we agree to allow someone to
do something for us, let them do it the way that they want to do it. If we can’t be flexible in how people might
do something, it is better to decline their help before the task is begun
rather than criticizing their (generous) work afterwards.
2)
If we have to have something done
a specific way, be upfront with the volunteer at the beginning of the project. If there are guidelines that must be followed
– either to do the project correctly or merely because we are meticulous – then
be straightforward and direct before the work is undertaken. It might deter some volunteers, but will
probably save some hurt feelings.
Think About It!